Having one child is life changing. It is. Your entire WORLD changes and you see things in a whole new perspective. Having two children changes things again. Parenting is a BREEZE, but life is much crazier. Supposedly the jump from one to two is the toughest…I hope so!!!
Zach and I have noticed that we are more of a FAMILY now that we have Brittlynn. Not that we weren’t a family with just Kye but we were more flexible. Able to do more. Adjust to fit situations. Get a sitter whenever needed. It’s different with two children. Now we simply can’t be flexible. Can’t do nearly as much. Can’t adjust to fit situations. And def don’t get sitters often at all. Even though we are blessed with family who will keep our children, we both feel like it’s a LOT more to ask of them. It just doesn’t seem worth all the effort just to go out to eat for a couple hours, ya know?
Recently we had plans to have some new friends over to eat. A bunch of stuff ended up conflicting on the plans and it just didn’t work out. Since Jordan and Casey were going to be coming over for the dinner too…Zach still asked them to come over (ended up that Casey couldn’t be there so Jordan just came). He came over at 7:30. We already put the kids to bed then we ordered him a pizza and he ate, chilled, and watched a movie while we went on a date. I don’t feel as bad asking people to come once the kids are in bed. I mean they don’t have to do ANYTHING. I’m sure Jordan didn’t mind the free food 😉 It worked out really well and maybe this is our solution to our slacking date nights!!!
Anyone want free pizza? 😉
We did this date night RIGHT!!! It felt SO GOOD to put on a little dress and feel pretty for a change (hard work is paying off!). Zach took me to The Bistro (which is where we ate on our last legit date night..back on Valentine’s Day! PS: I can’t get over how much thinner we both look in these pics compared to those…thank goodness!). We both ordered our favorites and, for once, didn’t stress over the cost. We didn’t even have a gift card!!! Living on the wild side haha
I LOVE lemon chicken. Like legit, LOVE it. Mouth is watering RIGHT NOW
We enjoyed dinner and just talked and were able to be together. The date night happened to land on the same week when I was having such a rough time so I REALLY needed the night out. It couldn’t have been better timing!!! I wasn’t 100% in the moment like I wish I could have been. It was so sweet of Zach to go to so much trouble and so sweet of Jordan (and Casey) to come sit at the house so I hate that I didn’t FULLY enjoy it. But it was a wonderful distraction and some super tasty food. We decided to hit up The Mix before going back home. Gah. I could eat there EVERY DAY 😉
Something that has been tough for me personally now that I’m a mom of two is feeling special. I think this is probably a common thing moms to experience. I think two kids just makes you a MOM in a way that one kid doesn’t. Like I could go to the store and still get looks from guys. But no guy is gonna be checking me out now. I’m walking around with a baby and a preschooler. Not a sexy look haha. Life is a lot busier and it’s harder for Zach and I to take the time to cherish each other. Give each other affection and attention the way we once could. It’s kinda tough to sweetly rub someones back when one of us is holding Britt and the other is trying to keep up with Crazy Boy Kye.
Zach and I have had a BIG talk about all of this and are working at taking that time out for each other. I’m trying to be a more Godly wife and I know he’s trying to be more attentive to my needs. He surprised me a few days after our date with cookies from the Cookie Company (calories I did NOT need…but the gesture was sooo sweet). He bought frosting and spelled out “amazing” on them then got me a card too. And not just any card. My FAVORITE ones from Hallmark. The “long cards.” Ya know? The ones that are tall and skinny and are three-fold? They always say JUST the right thing and he even wrote inside in ALL the space. It was super, super special.
(sorry for how ghetto it looks on the foil haha)
I’m thankful to be married to such an incredible man. It’s funny to me how we choose our spouse at SUCH young ages. I mean did we even really know what traits would make a good spouse in the long run??? All I knew was that he was a Christian, we had the same long term goals, and he looked dang cute in a hoodie 😉 As we grow older and our family grows larger, I’m more and more thankful that I saw something in him way back then!
I’m thankful we were able to enjoy a night out together and I’m thankful for how thoughtful Zach is. He knows just how to brighten my day and make me feel so special and loved 🙂 The simple card meant more to me than anything else!!! I love having written words to each other. It’s always nice to re-read stuff like that when you’re having a bad day, ya know? I will be keeping this card out for a LONG time so I can easily re-read it 😉
Who’s ready for some free food so we can go on another date night soon? 😉
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I love that you always go to the yogurt place when you're out. We just got one and I've only been once….time to go again!We married super young too (19 and 20!) and I often look back and laugh, thinking how we knew NOTHING about marriage. So thankful that we've grown and matured together along the way.